Life, 10 Years Later... January 18 2016 2 Comments
Today is a seemingly normal day just like any other. But, like most others celebrating Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, we are also celebrating the life of my other half! Some of you may know he was in a tragic and scary car accident when we were younger but not many keep up with how long ago it was. As you grow up and go through the many changes in your life, graduation of high school and college, job changes, etc., you will receive the question: Where do you see yourself in 10 years? If someone would of asked me that question 10 years ago today, I would of never been able to see where I am today. January 18th will always hold a very special, yet somber place in my heart. As this day comes each year I am taken back to that crazy day and I cannot help but relive the moments. January 17th was no special day. I had been shopping with my mom and sister most of the day trying to find something to wear to a family members funeral and was quite frankly spent when J called to ask if I would like to join him and his buddies for a night out. I declined and wanted to just relax, so we just agreed to talk when he was on his way home that night. As I got ready for bed I texted him to say 'I love you and goodnight' and he could call me later. He was out with his friends so I didn't think much about him not texting me back. Hours later I awoke to the ringing of my phone. I groggily answered thinking I would hear his voice on the other end, to only be jarred awake as I heard his moms shaken voice. The connection was bad so a few attempts later I heard, "J has been in a serious accident and you need to get to OU Medical Center, now!" The very early hours and quite frankly the entire day of January 18th was a blur of time. Everything seemed to go by so slow as we waited on the dr.'s to confirm our hopes that J would live. He had been the passenger in a truck that hit a parked dump truck going in excess of 40 mph. When the ambulance arrived, he was in such a bad way that they decided not to call for the medevac helicopter. They were convinced he would not make the trip to the hospital. My beautiful, strong other half is a fighter and his belief in our God is what I truly believe saved his life. That fateful night as we rode the elevator with the hospital chaplain to the ICU surgical waiting room, she informed us that 1in 3 people survive the surgery he was about to receive and at this very moment there were two people (the other passenger in the truck) going in for this surgery. By the Grace of God J did not end up needing this surgery, and I am extremely happy to say that our friend that did receive the surgery, made it through!!
I am not sure anyone is ever prepared for these tragic events but Faith is what gets you through!!
This event in our life is what bonded us together and strengthened our love for each other! Over the years we have been asked "How do you work with your spouse?" "Don't you ever get sick of each other? Living and working together?" The answers are always we LOVE it and each other and could not imagine it any other way! I treasure every moment we spend together. When you are uncertain if those moments will exist in your future, you crave them and hold them tight. Life is precious and should never be taken for granted. I still to this day, 10 years later, have a minor panic attack when I text or call him and he does not respond or answer! I have learned how to handle my minor freak outs ;) a little better but am not sure if that will ever stop happening. To some, this might just give a little insight as to why you always see us together! ;) I am just slightly addicted!
Our life was forever changed by that fateful day and it is that day that has pushed us to achieve our hopes, dreams, and goals. We walk into this new year with grateful hearts for all the fun and exciting things that are to come. As I sit writing this, J is playing in the next room with our sweet B's who are out of school today. Had that day 10 years ago ended differently, I would most certainly be having a very different day.
You may not know the answer to the question posed to you at that time, but always hope for the best and make your dreams come true. Live every day to the fullest and thank God for all that you have!